It occurs to me how important a support system is for a new mom, especially a first time mom, and how much I wish I really had one. Don’t get me wrong I have a great boyfriend, fantastic parents, and amazing friends; but people have their own lives too.
A friend who I’ve known since grade school was so sweet and actually did #1 & #5 (on the list at the end of this post) for me when I needed it the most. She is pregnant as well and expecting in a month and I hope to be as helpful to her as she was to me ~ aside from us always talking and me giving her advice based on my experience.
My boyfriend is great and completely in love with our son but elected to take the ‘night shift’ with the baby but doesn’t not take the advice probably most given to parents “sleep when the baby sleeps” which caused some tension since I ended up being the one to get up in the middle of the night. I was truly tested when he had to go out of state for two weeks due to an emergency hospice hospitalization then death in the family.
During the two weeks that I was the sole acting parent. My parents are smitten with their grandson but being as it is winter in my part of the world, and therefore cold & flu season, I wanted to limit leaving Ace with anyone for an extended amount of time or take him out in the weather. This was a difficult feat but fortunately I only took my babe out only twice ~ once to meet Santa, and one day we each had a doctors appointment.
Being on my own with my newborn for those two weeks was a true test of my stamina as a new and first time mom but I have to admit I loved every second of it. I can’t imagine being completely alone while raising him and my heart goes out to those mom’s who are forced to be so brave.
If you know a new mom do a little something for them. You might not realize that even a quick text message asking how THEY are doing helps!